mute: migrate Lists.swift to use new MuteItem

This patch depends on: Adding new structs/enums for new mute list

- Rewrites Lists.swift to use new mute list option
    - This leads to a lot of changes for changing the type from RefId to the new MuteItem
- Update & relay new mute list in AddMuteItemView.swift (fixing previous patch TODO)
- Renames `list` to `list_deprecated`
    - We need to keep this since existing users might have an old mute list

Related: https://github.com/damus-io/damus/issues/1718
Related: https://github.com/damus-io/damus/issues/856
Lighting Address: fishcharlie@strike.me

Signed-off-by: Charlie Fish <contact@charlie.fish>
Reviewed-by: William Casarin <jb55@jb55.com>
Signed-off-by: William Casarin <jb55@jb55.com>

nostrdb/NdbNote.swift

@@ -325,6 +325,10 @@ extension NdbNote {
         References<ReplaceableParam>(tags: self.tags)
     }
 
+    public var referenced_mute_items: References<MuteItem> {
+        References<MuteItem>(tags: self.tags)
+    }
+
     public var references: References<RefId> {
         References<RefId>(tags: self.tags)
     }