diff --git a/damus/Models/HomeModel.swift b/damus/Models/HomeModel.swift
index 28babd7c..766dc967 100644
--- a/damus/Models/HomeModel.swift
+++ b/damus/Models/HomeModel.swift
@@ -145,6 +145,14 @@ class HomeModel: ObservableObject {
                 return
             }
             
+            // since command results are not returned for ephemeral events,
+            // remove the request from the postbox which is likely failing over and over
+            if damus_state.postbox.remove_relayer(relay_id: nwc.relay.id, event_id: resp.req_id) {
+                print("nwc: got response, removed \(resp.req_id) from the postbox")
+            } else {
+                print("nwc: \(resp.req_id) not found in the postbox, nothing to remove")
+            }
+            
             if resp.response.error == nil {
                 nwc_success(zapcache: self.damus_state.zaps, evcache: self.damus_state.events, resp: resp)
                 return
diff --git a/damus/Util/PostBox.swift b/damus/Util/PostBox.swift
index 0d56d192..e8c1a62c 100644
--- a/damus/Util/PostBox.swift
+++ b/damus/Util/PostBox.swift
@@ -104,16 +104,18 @@ class PostBox {
         remove_relayer(relay_id: relay_id, event_id: cr.event_id)
     }
     
-    func remove_relayer(relay_id: String, event_id: String) {
+    @discardableResult
+    func remove_relayer(relay_id: String, event_id: String) -> Bool {
         guard let ev = self.events[event_id] else {
-            return
-        }
-        ev.remaining = ev.remaining.filter {
-            $0.relay != relay_id
+            return false
         }
+        let prev_count = ev.remaining.count
+        ev.remaining = ev.remaining.filter { $0.relay != relay_id }
+        let after_count = ev.remaining.count
         if ev.remaining.count == 0 {
             self.events.removeValue(forKey: event_id)
         }
+        return prev_count != after_count
     }
     
     private func flush_event(_ event: PostedEvent, to_relay: Relayer? = nil) {
@@ -147,3 +149,5 @@ class PostBox {
         }
     }
 }
+
+