mute: integrate new MutelistManager

This patch is slightly large (I think still within the guidelines tho) ,
but also pretty straightforward. I thought for a while about how I could
split this up in a straightforward way, and I couldn’t come up with
anything without breaking intermediate builds.

- Deleted a lot of old/unnecessary code (ie. the Collection extension
  for MuteItem, since we’re now using the MutelistManager sets)

- Changed damus_state.contacts to damus_state.mutelist_manager for all
  mute list manager work

- Updated MutelistView to take advantage of new code (this is probably
  the largest change in this patch)

Lighting-Address: fishcharlie@strike.me
Signed-off-by: Charlie Fish <contact@charlie.fish>
Reviewed-by: William Casarin <jb55@jb55.com>
Link: 20240210163650.42884-4-contact@charlie.fish
Signed-off-by: William Casarin <jb55@jb55.com>

damus/TestData.swift

@@ -73,6 +73,7 @@ var test_damus_state: DamusState = ({
                            likes: .init(our_pubkey: our_pubkey),
                            boosts: .init(our_pubkey: our_pubkey),
                            contacts: .init(our_pubkey: our_pubkey),
+                           mutelist_manager: MutelistManager(),
                            profiles: .init(ndb: ndb),
                            dms: .init(our_pubkey: our_pubkey),
                            previews: .init(),